Sunday, August 2, 2009

Just one more question...

In a prior post I mentioned that sometimes, some people will ask the same question over and over again. Well with the "Just one more question..." scenario, sometimes, some people, will not be willing to end a reading, hours, days even weeks and months after.

I've had clients call after a reading done in person, to ask another question over the phone. This can get abusive.

If say, for some unintended reason, someone has a legitimate question that they forgot to ask during their reading I will usually set up a time to answer this one question over the phone.

If the client wants to discuss an entire topic, I will encourage the client to make an appointment. If this happens more then once I will encourage the client to wait to ask their question at their next reading. Sometimes, some people, don't like this....

This brings us to another good topic. Boundaries. Some of you may have heard the phrase "Good fences make good neighbors". Well with readings "Good boundaries make good psychics".

By creating a set of standards and ethics that are clear, you feel comfortable using and you share with your clients, you then have a set the boundaries for you and your client to live by. Now if someone doesn't like it, each of you knows what comes next.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Touchy subjects...

While performing a reading, you may learn things you never wanted to know. Some people are cheating on spouses. Some people are living a secret life. Some people have been broken beyond repair. Some people are doing the braking. All of it is none of your business.

I've cultivated an interesting way of dealing with this issue. I don't remember the readings I give. I will remember a conversation we may have about your reading after the fact, but I usually won't remember what was said during the reading.

Makes my life easier but people do find it strange that I don't have a clue what I've told them.

I'm not sure if this happens due to early onset dementia or short term memory loss from a hit to the head I also can't remember, but I choose to believe the reason I don't remember a reading is because it's not my "stuff".

I have enough "stuff" i.e. baggage, in my own life to carry around and I really don't need someones "stuff" added to it.

If you have a strong sense of empathy, you may find it difficult to shake off a reading. I recommend getting into a routine practice of grounding, deep breathing, taking a walk, any or all of the above as a means of breaking the emotional attachment.

Next up: Just one more question... how to deal with an unethical client.

The never ending reading part two...

Learn how to end a reading. I know phone psychics are encouraged to keep the client talking. As a psychic I find this practice unethical as well as uncomfortable. When someone moves from asking a specific question during a reading, to a chatty conversation about said topic, I know it's time to end the reading.

People come to see a psychic for all manner of reasons. Yes I share my insights and hopefully an objective opinion or two, but I will not be paid to be a friend. Set your own personal boundaries. Get comfortable with what you are and are not willing to do in a reading. Creating this skill set will benefit your future readings more then you may know.

Next up: Touchy subjects...